Build Confidence and Destroy Fear
“The enemy
is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.”
We have all faced
times when the lack of confidence in ourselves makes us lose something that we
want. This low self-confidence and self-esteem may show up as fear or as simple
inaction. Confidence needs to be built slowly, one small step at a time. Here
are five key steps which will help you bust through that fear and destroy the
limitations and self-doubt that have been holding you back from your true
potential.
1. Action cures fear. Identify and
isolate your fear and take constructive action. Scared of public speaking? Make
a toast at a friend’s wedding. Inaction strengthens fear and corrodes
confidence.
2. Exude Positivity. Make a
conscious effort to deposit only positive thoughts in your memory bank. Do not
dwell on negative experiences or allow negative thoughts to morph into mental
monsters. If you feel good about yourself, you will become more confident.
3. Keep things in
perspective. Remember that people are more alike than different.
Get a balanced view of the other person and try to develop an understanding
attitude, particularly when you are in an uncomfortable situation. This builds
confidence when talking to new people.
4. The experience of
failure makes it easy for us to give up, letting fear and self-doubt win. But
if you persevere and keep striving for your goals, you will be able to destroy
your fear of failure and push past your limitations. Practice does make
perfect.
5. To think
confidently, act confidently. Research has shown that faking confidence can
actually lead to the real thing. The more scared and unconfident you feel, the
more confident you should act. David Schwartz recommends five specific
behaviors we can use to build confidence: sit in front, make eye contact walk
faster, speak up (offer your opinion) and smile.
It
is not fear itself that is the problem, but how we react when faced with it.
For some people the fear is motivating. For others it creates a state of
complete paralysis. People who overcome fear view it from a position of power,
and may use words such as “excited” to describe the emotion rather than
labelling it negatively.
Life is full of challenges and there are times when it’s
difficult to keep our self-confidence up. Sit down right now and make a list of
all the things in your life that you are thankful for, and another list of all
the things you are proud of accomplishing. Once your lists are complete, post
them on your refrigerator door, on the wall by your desk, on your bathroom
mirror–somewhere where you can easily be reminded of what an amazing life you
have and what an amazing person you really are.
Finally, remember those wise words of Lao Tzu:
“Health is
the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is
the Greatest Friend.”
Utsa Mukherjee [MBA HR]
Manager HR
AirCrews Aviation Pvt Ltd
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